Someone was mean to me.
A few days ago I received a mean email complaining about, well, our life.
Now, this would not have been so bad,really, if the accusations were based on facts, but they weren’t.
The person who sent the email made assumptions based on my blog.
As a friendly reminder,
the things I share on this blog are what I choose to share.
This is not all that is to our life,
there are many things that I am not sharing,
many things that go unsaid.
Just because I have never mentioned our weekly rhythm doesn’t mean we don’t have one,
just because you’ve never had a tour of our playroom, well, it’s still there!
Did you know that we cook family dinner together every night?
or that sweet Georgie sees a speech therapist?
The author of the e-mail also accused us of confusing our children by a change in religion.
Our family has always been a Jewish-Christian family,
we still bake challah together every Friday and celebrate Shabbat.
We celebrate Chanukah as well as Christmas, and I am proud of that.
I know it is difficult to remember that what people share online is only a small part of their life.
I, too, often look at other people’s blogs and think “Aren’t they lucky, their life is so great!” or “Why would they do that?!” but the truth is, I don’t know those people.
I don’t know what inspires them, I don’t know their thoughts,
and , most importantly, I don’t know their whole truth, all I know is a small part of their story, the part that they decide to share.
Being rude to people you don’t know, making assumptions about their life, their reasons, choices and actions is not only rude, it is unfair.
Now, that was an upsetting post, & no one likes upsetting things, so,
let’s all have a hug.
(& pass it on,too!)
Have a wonderful day!
♥
There’s been a little epidemic lately of comments and emails upsetting bloggers with unwanted words and intrusive negativity – maybe it is even the same person? Why bother? I seldom have time to write comments/emails to people I like, let alone people I don’t like! I love your schedule/rhythmn chart-thingy, btw.
Sorry to hear that, Miriam. Amazing, how daft some people are…
Hey, do you even have a toothbrush? You have never blogged about it…..
P.S.: You know I love your blog, and I think you are an amazing mom to three very lucky kiddos!
Never explain, never justify. It is about them, not you. Deep breaths xx
Rude
I Agree!
I really don’t understand why people have to be so mean. No one is forcing them to read your blog. Let those unkind words go and believe that you are doing the very best for your children. I love your blog and really enjoy the glimpses you share with all of us.
Oh my! The internet can be a very mean place, that’s for sure. I am so sorry someone hurt you this way. Your blog is a source of delight for me, as for so many others. Hugs to you.
Michelle
I’m so sorry you were hurt…
You have a beautiful family and a wonderful life and you know that…that’s all that matters!
Please don’t let one person’s ignorance stop you from sharing the beauty that you do because you are an inspiration!!!
Hugs to you. This has happened to me before as well, and it’s so hard. But I agree with the commenter above–never explain, never justify. You are free to post what you like, live how you like, and do what you like. I shall tell myself the same things!
Hi Miriam, I just wanted to say that I`ve found people tend to get defensive over things that make them really think about how they themselves do things, and that make them question their own beliefs. I think you`re a strong, loving mama with three lucky babes and a lucky husband too. I read your blog for inspiration as I try and find my way as a mom, and your little rituals and celebrations always bring a smile to my face and inspire me to try new things with my own children. I especially love that you give your children such freedom to just BE children. I always think to myself that if only we lived closer, you are someone I`d like to have as a friend
So thank you for blogging, although I know it leaves you vulnerable to criticism and hurt. Thank you for sharing all this with us all!
I can’t believe that someone could be mean. Most blogs like yours are showing the best bits of their life, that is why you have so many readers. Who would want to read… ‘put washing on, wiped cupboard, got a phone call, another bill through the door, kid got told off at school, car needs fixing etc etc’. People want to read what inspires and helps them and hopefully get them to see the good in their lives. I wouldn’t waste another minute thinking about that person other than to forgive them for their misguided thoughts. Stacey x
Just clicked in via mama UK, so sorry to read that, you had such a nasty email. If you don’t mind I’d love to add you to my side bar and pop in now and then?
I’ve had to password my blog due to a stalker, sad I know, so there’s no point putting my link at the top! I think mama uk can “vouch ” that I’m not a weirdo!!
Have a blessed weekend
S x
I love this post! I’m linking to it at somedaycrafts.blogspot.com and hoping that some of my readers will come over to read this!
Great reminder. A lot of my blogger-friends have dealt with a similar problem. I guess some people have nothing better to do than project their issues on others. They should get a hobby ~ Hey! I’ve got it! They should start a blog so they can tell the world how to be perfect like them! {teehee}
I am glad to have found your blog. Happy Weekend to you!
Negative comments from others only speak of their own issues, not of yours. This is my first visit to your blog and I can see immediately that you are parenting with intensions filled with nothing other than love, respect, and peace. I am so sorry that anyone would place their negativity and judgement on your beautiful family and the time that you take to put it all out there for the rest of us to view in your blog. You are doing a great job, and I personally thank you for being an inspiration.
Hey Miriam,
I’ve been off the blog radar for a while just because I’ve been uber busy. But I’m super glad you’re still sharing your wonderful life, gorgeous children and inspiring creative ideas for us all to freely see and read.
Don’t ever stop!
I have today come across your blog and have spent an enjoyable time reading and learning from you. Please don’t allow people with a sour choice of attitude on any given day to make an imprint upon your own choice of good attitude. We all go through life facing choices. Each day we are given choices, the first one is – to get out of bed or stay there. Then … shower, wash, bath or stay dirty? At some point during our days we are given the choice of what attitude we are going to have during the day. If someone wrote to you with a bad attitude, you must never take that attitude as a ‘gift’ that you can’t refuse. If someone were to bring you a gift that you didn’t want, you could say you didn’t want it. So when someone gives you a bad attitude, simply refuse to accept it. Give it back. It doesn’t belong to you. Refuse to accept it and then the giver has to handle their own attitude.
You are an exceptional person with an abuncdance of love to share, and you share it freely. This is a wonderful thing and it comes from a genuine place. Thank you for your love.