it’s okay!

Really, I don’t know how many times I am going to have to learn this lesson. I should write it down somewhere, on my hand, or on the wall, or just anywhere where I will see it.
It is okay to do what is right for your family, it really doesn’t matter what other people think.
It is okay.
We’ve got plastic toys now. Well, actually we have got one big plastic toy; HappyLand.
It was a big decision at first, but then I re-learned that lesson, and realized that it’s okay, the children love,love,love HappyLand, and that alone should be more than enough to stop this Mama from worrying.
It’s a sweet thing, it really is. I love how the little people inspire so many different stories, how everyone has a name , how there is always something new going on.

This is Helga Pinbottom, she was the mayor and policewoman before these characters found their way to our home.
Helga is married to Clarke and she’s got a son,too. His name is Drew.
(Yes, that’s Drew Pinbottom, purely coincidental, I promise!)

It was quite a big step for us to not only buy a plastic toy, but to buy an expandable plastic toy, but I do really think we made the right decision, to just let things go, to just do what feels right, and I’m really loving it, too.

This is Victor, he drives his tugboat around the playsilk sea:

It’s so good to just be , to just do what feels right, to not worry all the time about what’s right or wrong.
Really, the best advice for anyone at any time is : trust your instincts.
We need to do that more often. At least I know I do. Maybe you are already doing that.
I know they are;

I’ve been missing fire recently, wanting to light a million candles, or make a big fire in the garden.
It’s Bonfire Night soon, that’s something.
I think we all need a bit more fire in our lives, we are going off water, I know George is. The children used to love taking baths and go swimming, but these days George has no interest in water, he just doesn’t want to.
And that, too, is okay.
I’m not going to force you, my little man.

I feel so much change around here, so much personality emerging from everyone, everywhere.
Emily , she wears her hat back to front because “that’s just my style now, Mama” , and it makes me think that , wow, that is an actual person I’ve got here, that’s not just my daughter, she’s also her own Emily , she’s a granddaughter, a sister, a greatgranddaughter,a niece, a cousin and so, so much more!
Oh,that reminds me, thank you Sam & Amy for the sweet wooden duck you won for George, Archie & Emily , they love it.

Another big change happened for our family, we decided to get a tv. It was a huge and difficult decision, and we’ve talked it over many,many times, sometimes together,sometimes just on my own, and, well, we’re happy.
We still don’t watch any tv, but we do watch the occasional video , which is something we have done before, watching a movie on the computer on a rainy day. I am not sure why I was so worried about this, why I thought it would change so much, because it really doesn’t have to , and it really didn’t.
I love the feeling of relief that comes with letting go of things, be it a silly rule that helps no one or just a worry that you have been carrying around with you.
My Emily is so good at forgiveness, at making things un-done. She picked up quickly on a little trick that Mama & Auntie Katrin used to have, just put all your worries, all your bad memories and things you want to let go off into an imaginary bubble and let it float away. That’s how we deal with bad days around here, although we very rarely have those nowadays.
Well, the Chief does, but that’s only because he’s teething.I have yet to find the violet roots & amber necklaces that I put somewhere safe so that we would find them quickly, as boys in this family tend to grow those sweet tiny babyteeth rather early.
Chief’s got his name because his favourite shirt says “fire chief” , and his second favourite outfit says “kansas city chiefs” , and while I don’t know anything about them, I do love it so much. (My mum bought it for Emily about four years ago because it looked so comfy.)

Its funny how names just suddenly find us and then seem so right. Like Boo’s name. Boo’s first word was “Boo” , thanks to greatgrandma , who taught him how to play the “Boo!” game. I wonder if we will remember that in thirty years when he asks why he’s called Boo. Or when Arthur asks why he is the Chief.
I only just noticed that I think we need more fire in our life and now we call our littlest one -Fire Chief-.
Very strange.
I think I am going to light a few candles now, or maybe more than a few.
Or maybe just whatever feels good. Yep, that sounds about right.
I’m wishing you a wonderful and lovely day, or evening, or night, wherever you are, whoever you are.

♥